Introduction – This will introduce the issue of divorce and how it impacts children of different ages.
Social-Emotional Impacts of divorce will be discussed on the following ages
Attachment Theory – This theory will be discussed in relation to the issue of divorce and child development
Steps of Minimizing Divorce –steps that can be taken in mitigating the number of divorces in helping children cope with the divorce of their parents will be discussed here.
Providing Support to Divorce Parties – here, the way that I might support divorce parties as a professional counselor will be discussed.
Divorcehas become an exceedingly increasing issue in the United States.There are different kids that have come to suffer emanating fromdivorces. For instance, some kids have been affected emotionally dueto divorce, which has made them not perform academically. Accordingto the attachment theory, a child is likely to associate with bothparents and his/her failure to have the association of one parent maymake the kid become affected psychologically. Attachment is adaptiveand significant for survival.
Atthe pre-school age, children usually have their chief bond with theirparents. In case a pre-school age kid becomes separated from one ofhis/her parents because of divorce, it is difficult for such a kid tounderstand the reason for divorce and may tend to think he/she is thereason for the parent’s breakup (Clarke-Stewart&Brentano,2006). Such a kid may become affected by divorce and may regress,resist toilet training, and may fear going to sleep alone.
School-agechildren may also become impacted by the issue of divorce. Althoughthey do not understand the divorce concept, school-age kids usuallyfeel as if their parents want to divorce them. In case they stay withone parent, they become worried about losing the other parent.School-age kids may tend to associate with one parent against theother and may tend to express their anger differently. For example,boys may tend to fight with their classmates, while girls may tend tobecome anxious or depressed (Clarke-Stewart&Brentano,2006).
Onthe other hand, adolescents usually understand the divorce conceptand tend to deal in an aggressive manner to divorce. In case of adivorce, the adolescents usually react in a rebellious way and attimes tend to disregard family discipline. Besides, adolescentsusually show anger to parents and try to live independently (Jolivet,2011).
Attachmentis a lasting psychological connectedness amid humans. According tothe attachment theory, kids have a universal need of seeking closeproximity from their caregivers, when they feel threatened orstressed (Kail & Cavanaugh, 2013). Attachment usually developsaccording to stages. Up to three months, a newborn has indiscriminateattachments and has preference for certain individuals after fourmonths. However, after seven months, kids show preference for certainindividuals for protection and comfort. After 9 months, kids buildmultiple attachments.
Differentsteps can be taken in order to minimize the number of divorces andhelping children in coping more effectively with the divorce of theirparents. A key to minimizing divorce entails resolving relationshipproblems. This can be done by resolving issues that lead to divorceparents can resolve the issues as fast as possible to avoid theirkids from subsequently being affected (Altschuler& Veisblatt, 2014).Kids can be in a position to cope with issues of divorce throughensuring that they have sufficient support. Besides, it is criticalto allow kids in maintaining emotional neutrality (Stahl,2007).
Onthe other hand, as a professional counselor, I may provide support tothe parties involved in a divorce through advising them accordinglyon the away forward to avoid divorce. Besides, in case they considera divorce, I can advise them on the way forward in preventingchildren from being impacted by the divorce.
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