Mostpeople tend to get embarrassed when they realize that they have drawnunwanted attention to themselves. David Sedaris’s was majorlyattributed to his learning approach of the new language. David feelslike he attracts profound attention from both his teacher and therest of the students in class. It is such realization that tends toimpact embarrassment on an individual as postulated by David Sedaris.Throughout the book David paints a clear picture of how the teachercould belittle everyone in class, for instance he commemorates onespecific occasion when he was required to introduce himself in class.He jitters on the best way to introduce himself without making a foolof his personality however, the teacher ends up criticizing him forlack of knowledge of the correct gender assignment for a floor waxerand typewriter.
Peoplefeel embarrassed when they lose control of their bodies of theiractivities for instance slipping on ice or saying something wrong inthe presence of dreaded people just like in the case of David.However, practical embarrassment crops in when people notice thatthere is somebody who has realized the mistake made. Some of the keydeterminants of any embarrassing situation include the audience,perception of making a negative impression on people who matter andviolation of norms and values within our environment. David Sedaris’ssituation is marred by the three ingredients of embarrassment. In hiscase David was surrounded by his classmates who encompassed theaudience and his values encompassed not making any errors or wrongspelling and grammar in class, this is because the teacher criticizedanything wrong the students said in class.
Embarrassingsituations become painful or funny depending with the levels of thethree ingredients described. For instance, if all the students werecriticized in the same lesson in a day, most of them would tend toview it as a funny ordeal. However, if only one student is criticizedin the entire lesson, it will turn out to be a painful experience forthat student. The type of audience, norms and negative impressionpostulated greatly impact on the extent of an embarrassment eitherfunny or painful in the end. Researchers depict that the type ofaudience is the greatest determinant of the extent of ourembarrassment. For instance, people tend to get embarrassed when theydo a mistake in front of their bosses as opposed to in front of theirpeers. Also the audience size is a factor, David Sedaris’s connotesthe effect of a large audience, the larger the audience the morepainful the embarrassment. Often time it is not the real audiencethat gets us embarrassed, but is the possibility that people may havenoticed our mistakes.
Otherpeople’s embarrassment becomes a joke to US, it illicit funnybehaviors to US as opposed to the individual getting embarrassed. Forinstance, if a person slips and falls in front of a crowd, the crowdis likely to burst into laughter especially if there is no directrelationship that exists between the two parties. However, in asituation where the person who slips and falls down is directlyrelated to US, we tend to adopt a feeling of concern to that personor on some occasions it will embarrass US just like it embarrassesthat individual. It depicts that for a given situation to be termedas an embarrassment it must be directly related to the individualsinvolved otherwise on most occasions it will turn out to be a funnyoccasion.
Itis important to read humorous treatment of another person`s family toestablish a connection to different situations that may causeembarrassment. It will become a good basis in establishing a familydifferent societal connection. Embarrassment is often felt when anorm is unintentionally violated. People who find social normsparticularly important and want to conform to the social rules tendto feel more embarrassed when a given irregularity occurs. Those whocare more tend to care more and project their concerns on what peoplewould think of them and would want to avoid rejection are more proneto embarrassment. Embarrassment is shown by the following signsblushing, gaze aversion and suppressed smile.